Choices, choices

I have mentioned that I never really planned my "dream wedding." I have hazy ideas based on things I've seen and don't want, and a gut feeling that a big traditional ceremony is not really my cup of tea.

Beyond that the only thing I have is a list of questions a mile long. I've even divided it into categories. I won't post it here to bore all of you (if you ask nicely I might show you), but it all boils down to:

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Maybe with an exclamation points or two thrown in there.

And then what should arrive in the mail but an honest-to-goodness wedding binder made by my friend Lyndi, who has earned herself a spot as a bridesmaid (ok, she knew it previously, but now she's earned the right not to wear a pea green taffeta monstrosity). It didn't answer all my questions, but now at least I have a few ideas to run with.

I've also been looking for a list of wedding ideas NOT to do. Because all the "must haves" are getting a little ridiculous. I may have to start one myself. Feel free to provide examples.